Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow." - Doe Zantamata
As humans, it can be easy to judge others based on behaviors, beliefs, choices, or appearance. Whether it’s a stranger or a friend we know well, we have a tendency to evaluate people and make assumptions. While judgment can be an automatic thought and a useful survival skill, it can also be harmful in making connections.
Here are some of the benefits of withholding judgment:
1. It builds trust
When people feel that they are being judged or criticized, they are less likely to open up and share their true thoughts and feelings. By withholding judgment, you create a safe space where others feel comfortable to openly and honestly express themselves.
2. It promotes empathy
When we withhold judgment, we are more likely to see things from another person’s perspective. By putting ourselves in their shoes, we gain a better understanding of their circumstances, emotions, and motivations, which then leads to greater compassion.
3. It reduces conflict
Judgment can lead to tension in relationships. A change in body language or an elevation in tone can cause a person to put up their defensive armor, causing a situation to become emotionally charged. Withholding judgment helps us avoid these unnecessary arguments, in turn creating a peaceful environment.
Quick Tips: 1. Practice active listening
2. Avoid making assumptions
3. Check your own biases
By checking in with our own beliefs, we become mindful of how our past experiences and values impact our perception of others; thus cultivating a stronger understanding and connection. In doing so, you give others permission to be themselves authentically, almost like saying, "Oh there you are. I see you, and I accept you."
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